Peace might be sought after on earth but not more so than it is right here, in my home. Goodwill too. Not with these children.
Best friends but also someone to bicker with.
Snipe, grumble, dig and moan. That’s all they do to each other. Well, not all the time but almost all the time.
My children have an uncanny ability to overlook what is expected of them personally.
“Did you brush your teeth?”
“Have you made your bed?”
“Did you put your dirty clothes in the wash?”
Yet still, quite amazingly, they know exactly what their siblings should have done. Or shouldn’t have done as the case may be.
And not only do they know it all, but they’ll give themselves the ultimate responsibility of hounding the particular sibling in question over the matter in hand.
Child A: “Have you tidied your toys?”
Child B: “No”
Child A: “Well, you know you’re meant to tidy your toys. Go and do it now.”
Child B ignores Child A.
Child A: is now getting more annoyed: “Go and tidy your toys I said!”
Child B: “No!”
Child A: “Go and tidy your toys!!”
Child B: “GO AWAY AND DON’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!”
Child A: “MUUUUU-MMMMMMM!!! ______ won’t tidy their toys!!!!”
Me: “Well, have you tidied yours?”
Child A: “No but ______ hasn’t tidied theirs first!”.
Their talents amaze me.
I will repeat the same things to them each day, over and over again. I have the same expectations for the same chores and tasks to be completed yet, day after day after day I will repeat the same lines time and time and time again. Despite the constant repetition these requirements never seem to soak into their brains yet still they are able to know exactly what half a dozen other people they are related to are meant to be doing especially if there’s the chance they can get them into trouble for not doing it. That, of course, is worth bonus points.
For goodness sakes children, when will you realise that if you each kept a check on your own chores, tasks and behaviour and not worried about everyone else then there would be harmony and joy in this house! Not only that but think of all the brain space it would free up if you were suddenly less concerned about keeping tabs on what everyone else had or hadn’t done and just concentrated on the one person whose deeds and actions do affect you… YOU!
Now I’m not going to name any names here and I’m not going to tell you who the biggest instigator of such behaviour is. Except that she is 11 years old and the only female currenly living in our house apart from me, and is now the oldest sibling since Ben and Stephanie moved out and seems to suffer a frequent identity crisis during which she confuses herself with being a parent.
Is it just my house and my kids?
Or is it a girl thing in particular?
Or do the rest of you live in glorious harmony that I can only envy?