“But I’m Not Hitting You” – Why Domestic Abuse Is Not Just Physical

  He said he never hit me so it wasn’t domestic abuse. The truth is, coercive control and domestic abuse is not just physical. Like many who look back in hindsight and hear great klaxons of warnings at certain memories, I carry a lot of guilt, shame and embarrassment that I did not realise what… Read More

A Rise in Domestic Abuse Cases Being Dropped? Tell Me Something I Don’t Know. Mine Was One of Them

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    I’m absolutely furious by this story that broke the BBC News headlines this morning about the Huge Rise in Domestic Abuse Cases Being Dropped in England and Wales.   A study of 30 of the 43 police forces in England and Wales has shown that there has been a whopping 159% increase in… Read More

My Plea for Help Made Public: How Coercive Control, Abuse and a Broken System Cost Me Everything

  For the last few years I have intentionally backed away from writing anything personal on this blog. To be honest, I didn’t feel much like writing. My head was too full and jumbled to make sense of anything. When I decided to finally get out of my marriage to Mike, I thought I had… Read More