13 Signs You’re Dating Someone with an Abusive Personality

  You are entering an abusive relationship, you must be naive, right? You will be amazed at how smart and collected the females the deceived actually are. But these abusive, narcissistic people are common scammers – and often very charming to boot. After all, how many times have you heard others refer to an abuser… Read More

Joint Bank Accounts and Financial Abuse

    Choosing whether to open a joint bank account with a friend or partner is a personal decision that should not be taken lightly. Sadly, many domestic abuse victims find themselves unable to escape because their partners have taken control of the finances, subjecting them to severe financial abuse. I was lucky in that… Read More

Victims of Domestic Abuse Will Have Longer to Report a Crime

So Priti Patel has agreed to change the law to give victims of domestic abuse more time to report a crime, increasing the time limit from six months to two years. We have already been alerted to the alarming rise in domestic abuse cases being dropped due to timing out and only a short while… Read More

“But I’m Not Hitting You” – Why Domestic Abuse Is Not Just Physical

  He said he never hit me so it wasn’t domestic abuse. The truth is, coercive control and domestic abuse is not just physical. Like many who look back in hindsight and hear great klaxons of warnings at certain memories, I carry a lot of guilt, shame and embarrassment that I did not realise what… Read More

A Rise in Domestic Abuse Cases Being Dropped? Tell Me Something I Don’t Know. Mine Was One of Them

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    I’m absolutely furious by this story that broke the BBC News headlines this morning about the Huge Rise in Domestic Abuse Cases Being Dropped in England and Wales.   A study of 30 of the 43 police forces in England and Wales has shown that there has been a whopping 159% increase in… Read More

My Plea for Help Made Public: How Coercive Control, Abuse and a Broken System Cost Me Everything

  For the last few years I have intentionally backed away from writing anything personal on this blog. To be honest, I didn’t feel much like writing. My head was too full and jumbled to make sense of anything. When I decided to finally get out of my marriage to Mike, I thought I had… Read More