5 Powerful Reasons to Adopt

The process of adoption is when an adult becomes the legal guardian of a child who is not biologically theirs. A married couple can adopt, as can couples who cohabit and same-sex couples too.

Adoption was once a closed process. Once the biological parents had given up their children, they were not allowed contact until the child wished it and only when they were over the age of 18 years.

Today, the adoption landscape looks very different. Adoption happens for many reasons, from the death of a parent and no suitable family to continue parenting the child, through to more complex reasons.

And adoption is no longer only open to married couples with no children. Couples can adopt, same-sex couples can adopt, members of the LGBT community can adopt and single people – a man or woman – can also welcome an adopted child into their home.

There are many reasons why people choose to do this but what are the main reasons to adopt that adopted parents give for this life-changing decision?

 

1 To give a child a family by creating one of their own

Adopting fulfils a need not just for the child but for the adopted parents too. All adopters want to offer a child a loving home and family. This is a place where they are protected and safe, whether they can thrive with the love, care and attention that every child needs.

 

2. To help a child move on

Some children waiting for adoptive parents have experienced a traumatic start to their lives. They may have suffered abuse or been neglected. Their home life, blighted by their birth parents addictions, for example, may have been chaotic and their needs were not a priority.

They will come to their adopted parents with much of this trauma still hidden, but not forgotten. Adopted parents will undergo ‘training’ during the adoption application process that helps them to understand how to help their adopted child or family to cope and process early childhood trauma.

And it is this underlying desire to help and to make a difference to a child’s life that is a one of the most powerful reasons to adopt.

 

3. Give their love to a child

There are thousands of children waiting for their forever families in the UK, with nearly three-quarters aged 2 years or over.

Some adoptive parents want to start their family with a baby, others want a toddler while others are willing to open their homes and lives to older children, boy or girl. Some adoptive parents with enough bedrooms and energy are willing to adopt a group of siblings so that they can keep a family together.

All of these children, boys and girls, and no matter what age, are all in desperate need of parents who can love them, protect them and guide them from childhood to being a teenager and then on to adulthood.

As adopted parents, your love will be the foundation on which these children will grow and thrive.

 

4. To be a parent doesn’t mean you have to be a biological one

Abraham Maslow, an American psychologist, produced a hierarchy of needs that, if they were all met, he concluded would be the basis for a human to thrive. There is debate and modern adaptations of the theory, but the essence of the theory remain in place.

To thrive, children need to have their physiological needs take care of (food, water, rest for example), they need to be safe and protected, they need to belong and be loved, they need to meet their goals, and they need to be free to reach their accomplishments.

Nowhere in this theory – or any other – does it say that the only people who can provide all this for children are biological parents. Could you provide all this, along with patience and acceptance to a child?

 

5. YOUR reasons

Of course, the four reasons to adopt discussed thus far are general ones. The decision to adopt is a crucially important one – and a personal one. It requires a depth of thought and rational judgement that you may not have used before.

The decision to adopt should be based on something more than just a fleeting compassion or a noble desire to ‘make a difference’. What is YOUR reason to adopt?

It could be that you have fertility problems or you can’t see yourself married with a couple of kids. It may be that you are gay and don’t want to follow the surrogacy route. But at the centre of any decision should be the child that you could potentially adopt.

 

 

 

 

 

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