When do you make your dream a reality?

For many, many years it has been our dream to buy a little patch of land and a house in a quiet, secluded place. Preferably Ireland, we dream.

We dream of setting up a workshop for Mike, working together to live a slower pace of life, with room for the children to run and play safely, with chickens and a couple of animals and home grown food and a small community nearby.

That’s been our dream for many years.

The thing is, our dream was always happening “in a couple of years”. And those couple of years never arrived. No matter how much time has passed, each time one year ended and another began we’d say to each other, “Perhaps next year we won’t be here.”, “Perhaps next year we’ll have done it.”.

But guess what, we’re still here and still no closer to it. Meanwhile life goes on, the children continue to grow like weeds, and we, much as I hate to say it, aren’t getting younger.

What to do? Do we make the decision to throw caution to the wind, jump in with both feet and go for it or do we keep doing as we’re doing… and put it off til “next year”.

We found two very strong potentials in the last week. One of which fits our vision perfectly.

Of course, we need to finish off the decorating quick sharp and sell our house at the right price, and we need to make sure the figures work out, and then there’s sorting out new mortgages and dealing with estate agents and having to run around after the kids trying to clear up a trail of mess while you stress about yet another viewing to conduct and the risk, don’t forget the risk but…we’d need to do all that “next year” wouldn’t we?

No matter when we finally decided it was time to stop talking and start doing we’d be taking a gamble on starting a new life, and we’d have to deal with all the fun stuff like estate agents and viewings and new mortgages and…

So tell me at which point do we finally say enough to “next year” and say that actually, this is the year we change our lives.

Or do we just talk about the dream forever and one day find that we’re too old, the children have left home and that our dream remained exactly that?

6 thoughts on “When do you make your dream a reality?

  1. hm…when we could no longer fit in our lil trailer that we lived in, that's when we gave in and quit saying "maybe one day". now we own a house, but we're still saying maybe one day. we want more land than the one acre we've got. lol…but our one acre is plenty for now!

  2. Hi Tania! My husband and I have relocated 3 times in our lives. I'm not sure where you currently reside, so I don't know if moving to Ireland means moving internationally. It isn't easy, that's for sure. But it has been SUCH an amazing experience for us, and we don't regret it at all; in fact, we still talk about where we'll move next, and how we'd feel "defeated" if our next move is closer to home (i.e. where we grew up).

    Our first relocation was without kids, our second relocation was with a 15 month old, and our 3rd relocation was with a 2.5 year old and a 3 week old. Our third move was also financially draining for us, which we knew when we went into it.

    I have no concept of what life with 8 kids means, but that has to be a huge consideration. 🙂 Good luck with your decision

  3. It sounds like you have a great start with your positive mindset! I know buying your "dream" always seems like a struggle and it's easier to put off. My best advice, stick with it no matter what! I think buying a house is one of the hardest things to do not to mention selling one at the same time! So much to consider and do, it's more of a struggle then a dream.

    In the end it's worth it, just keep your eye on the prize 😉 Good luck!!

  4. It's hard to make that big decision – but you'll maybe regret it forever if you don't! Our lives have taken a varied (and long!) route to get to where we are now. Our only regret at the end of that journey is that we didn't get here 10 years earlier! Only, ten years earlier, I wasn't ready. Life's always full of uncertainty, but once you know what you want and you feel ready to take it on, then be strong and go for it!
    Hope you get there, and soon enough to really make the most of it!

  5. We have the same dream but we can't seem to find a way to make it work financially. We keep saying 'next year' but I just don't know if it will happen.

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